My Declaration of Principle: 22. The realization that for me to be able to change myself - I first have to ‘know thyself’

The 22nd principle I commit myself to live by is the realization that for me to be able to change myself in thought, word and deed to the most effective living being that I can be and become – I first have to ‘know thyself’ and so commit myself to investigate, introspect and understand how I became who I am today, to prepare the road before me into self creation of a responsible, aware, self honest and trustworthy person for myself and so for all.

I am doing this through self-honest writing here on my blog and in private, as well as with the help of my buddy in the DIP course, where I also learn the most effective tools for self-support and self-improvement. While doing so I also offer my assistance to others who want to better themselves so that we can all move faster in creating a world that is best for all and not keep reinventing the wheel while doing so.

The tools I use in investigating my mind (i.e. my thoughts, feelings and emotions) and the consequential behavioral patterns are among others: self-aware breathing, self-honest writing, self-forgiveness and self-corrective application.

In this way I uncover for myself the patterns within my conscious, subconscious and unconscious mind that consists of automated thought patterns and energetic reactions that result in emotional and feeling experiences in my body and then also automatic behavioral patterns that are not supportive for me or people around me. Thus we can call them self-sabotage patterns that I have (and each human has) created and copied from my (his/her) parents or others.

When I see these patterns for what they are, I check if they are supportive for me and others and if I am living them self-directively in awareness. If not, then I forgive myself for not being self-responsible and I write and determine a correction for myself. A new pattern that I will live instead of the old one, this time aligned with what is best for all and so for me as well.

I have noticed and proven to myself how beneficial it is for me to take time each day to write and reflect on my patterns and give myself clear direction. Thus I commit myself to make sure that I self-honestly do my best to apply all of the above every day in writing as well as in breath, as I understand that this is the greatest support I can gift to myself and no one else can ever do it for me.

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My Declaration of Principle: 14. Relationships as Agreements

The 14th principle I am committing myself to live by is the principle of Relationships as Agreements, meaning: individuals coming together using agreements as a platform to one-on-one expand, grow and develop as individuals in life and living to support/assist each other unconditionally to reach their utmost potential where the agreement is a coming together of individuals understanding what it means to stand as equals and to stand as one.

What this means in practice is that I will not base my relationships with others on my emotions and feelings or other selfish - only what I want - impulses that I pop up within me from my mind-consciousness system. Instead, I will observe myself in self-honesty through the help of writing and make sure that how I create my relationships with others and what I base them on, is not only best for me, but equally best for the other person, where we can both help each other to expand as who we are as living beings. Not limit each other, like people do when they for example fall in love with someone and then make themselves believe that they cannot live without the other person - this is complete self-limitation and self-diminishment. To achieve this goal, I also have to remove all my emotional patterns that I have been experiencing and creating in the past, such as attraction, love, desire, envy, hate and any others with which I limited myself within my relationships with others.

Within this I also realize how everything that I see within other people is just a reflection of myself. If I hate or judge another, it is because I have created this pattern of thought towards that person within myself and so I am responsible to stop the pattern of hate and judgement, because I am diminishing and limiting both myself and the other person when I participate in it.
Also if I desire to be with another person it is because I see something within that person that I believe I do not have and am separate from, but the solution is not for me to seek for this in another person, instead I learn to give and gift it to myself by myself, because I am the one separating myself from it in the first place by starting to believe that I do not have what I see within another person.

As I take self-responsibility for myself as I described above, I will become my own best support as I always should be and so I will also be able to support others in the best possible way by being an example of how to change self and become a better human being that constantly expands the potential of not only self, but also helps others to do so, by learning and teaching how to be a self-directive human being that is not inferior to one's own emotions and feeling / mind-consciousness system.

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My Declaration of Principle: 12. Not waiting for anything or anyone to take responsibility for me and this world

Previous blog is in Slovene.

The 12th principle I am committing myself to live by is the point of not waiting for anything or anyone to take responsibility for me and this world – but that I realize I have created who and how I am in this moment, therefore I have the responsibility to change who and how I am and so the realization that we as a collective created how and what this world is today and so it is the responsibility of the collective to change how and what this world is today.

It sounds simple enough and makes perfect sense in self-honesty. I am responsible for everything I do because I am the one doing it and allowing it. And within the bigger reality I am equally responsible for the world and how it is as I am participating and influencing the world as a whole. The realization in itself is simple. What this means in practice is that I must take self-responsibility in every breath to self-direct myself in a way that is best for all. This requires persistence and specificity, because when we really look at ourselves in self-honesty, we see how selfish and ignorant we really are and how we are allowing ourselves to be directed by our energetic emotional reactions and selfish thought impulses, instead of us being the directive principle and always directing ourselves according to The Principle of: do not treat (ignore) other as you would not want to be treated (ignored) in their place. So, how I strive to achieve this in my everyday life is to gently push myself through the resistances by using self-forgiveness and so changing myself to gradually take full-responsibility for myself and all my patterns, thoughts, emotions and feelings. I observe myself and see where I still blame others for how I feel or for the situation I am/we are in. Then I change the pattern into looking at what can I do to stand as the solution for the problem/abuse I see I have since now avoided, ignored or participated in. I direct myself to get involved in activities that have to be done in order to create a world where a dignified life for all is guaranteed. Such as politics, education and developing effective, consistent patterns that will support me and everyone else in reaching our full potential and stopping all the (self) abuse that we now still accept and allow in this world. This also includes writing a blog for self support and support of others. Reading, sharing and rating the blogs and common sense principles. Educating myself about how the mind works and how I can become more effective and more aligned with The Principle, how the system works, looking at problems and developing practical solutions that everyone can apply.

So, it is all about forgiving away my selfishness and aligning myself with The Principle, to stand as the solution to all the abuse in this world.The only reason why we have all this abuse in our world is because we are all individually accepting it and allowing it and even participating in it, creating it. This is not acceptable and so, we are all responsible to take complete self-responsibility to change ourselves and start doing what is best for all in every breathe.

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Day 190 - My Declaration of Principle: 10. Making Love Visible

The 10th principle I commit myself to live by is the principle of: Making Love Visible – through me not accepting/allowing anything less than my utmost potential, I support those in my life to reach their utmost potential, to love them as I have shown love to myself by gifting to me my utmost potential, the best life/living experience and show others as I have shown myself what it means to LIVE.

Through walking my process of applying self-honesty and self-forgiveness I firstly start loving myself by stopping the self-blame, self-hatred, self-judgment and other self-abuse, where I make sure that I give myself attention and care. With this I stop suppressing my own problems (thoughts and emotional reactions) that come up within me and take complete self-responsibility for them, where I make sure that I align my living principles to practical common sense and what is Best for All. This means that I create relationships with others based on the understanding that we are all equal as Life and that separation between us is actually not real, because it is just a selfish perception of spite within my mind, that I used to justify my selfishness, my ego, my ignorance and my abuse towards others.

Walking and applying this practically is a process of conscious effort to change myself practically, where I for example examine where do I react to others with anger, blame and spitefulness, forgive these emotions, thoughts and patterns of behavior and then apply the correction practically, where I don't react anymore to another emotionally. Instead I understand that I don't have to take what others do personally, but put myself into their shoes and see what they are going through and so, based on my realizations and self-correction, stand as support for them, where I listen, understand and explain how I have dealt with such and similar problems another is facing and how I have learned to take responsibility for myself, to be my own solution to every problem that I created and become aware of.

Within such constant practical application I take self-responsibility for myself where I learn to live the word care and love practically, not as an emotion that is sometimes here and sometimes transformed into hate and spite. And as I gave an example above, this is how I make love actually visible through the ways I change myself in how I approach myself, other people and any situation that needs to be directed in a way that is Best for All.

Making love visible often also means to help me and others to see what I/they don't really want to see by being brutally self-honest and finding the core of the problem within me or another, as only by taking self-responsibility for the primary cause of the problem within ourselves, we can truly remove it by changing ourselves and standing as a solution. This means that I must push myself though the fears and perceived limitations and make sure that I do not accept any bullshit from myself or another, because only by going beyond the fears and perceived limitations can we truly extend our potential and so make sure that we become the best we can be.

There cannot be any visible love if we simply allow ourselves and each other to stagnate within our comfort zones that we trapped ourselves into because of our fears and emotions. It is our responsibility to constantly encourage ourselves and each other to break all self-limitations and stop all the ignorance, until we can be sure that all abuse of Life has been stopped and prevented.

Day 161 - My Declaration of Principle: 8. Being aware of self and others and supporting Life

Previous blog is in Slovene.

The eight principle I am committing myself to live by is the Principle of taking responsibility for myself to become aware of myself and others in my life, to assist and support them as I am assisting and supporting myself – to give as I would like to receive and do the extra bit every day to see where I can contribute to other’s lives and so my own.

Being aware of myself means that I observe myself and what is going on within myself in every breath. What thoughts am I having, what emotions and feelings, where are they coming from, how am I creating them and how can I direct myself in alignment to what is best for all Life? Here I practice self-aware breathing, combined with "brutal" self-honesty, to really see the causes of the patterns that I participate in and then I take self-responsibility for them and apply self-forgiveness. After this I can lay out the practical self-correction which I will implement in my Life, so that I can become less limited and help more to implement, with my own practical example, human relationships that will result in a system that is best for all of us. All this process I do through writing, like you can see on this blog, and then applying myself in my everyday practical life.

It is important that I firstly focus on myself, because I cannot help others if I do not help myself first and get to know how I can do it. Then I commit myself to also assist others and help them as I would like to be assisted and helped if I was in the shoes of another. By help and assistance I mostly mean the support of showing others with my example how they can as well take self-responsibility for their own mind and emotional patterns and change themselves and their lives to become more effective and more stable and start helping to create a world where a dignified life for all will be guaranteed. Because this is the only way it is going to happen, when every one of us takes self-responsibility to actively participate in creating a world that is best for all and not based on selfishness and abuse of Life.

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Day 48 - Relationships

My 'Day 47' blog post is in Slovene.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to wish/want/desire to meet/talk to my friends and people I know out of fear that I will lose the help/attention/validation/consolation from them if I do not and within this I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear that they will start to resent me. I realize that I fear not being in contact with my friends and people I know because I am afraid of being with myself alone and taking complete self responsibility for myself and so I use my friends and people I know to run away from myself and try to get comfort, safety, help and support from them, instead of giving this to myself. When and as I see myself wanting to meet with friends and people I know out of a wish/want/desire to get attention/validation/comfort/safety/help and support, instead of writing out my fears/desires and applying self-forgiveness and self-correction - I stop and breathe. I commit myself to remove all wishes/wants/desires to run away from myself by meeting/talking to my friends and people I know in order to get comfort from them, by applying self-forgiveness and directing myself in breath and not allowing fears/emotions to move me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel guilty and to blame myself for how I behaved in my relationship with my ex-girlfriend and because of this believe that I owe to support her and also I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to wish/want/desire to redeem myself by helping/meeting with/talking with her whenever she asks me to and also I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to wish/want/desire to do her favors in order to ensure myself help/attention/validation from her in the future in case if I need it. I realize that I am with this trying to get the feeling of safety through using others instead of taking complete responsibility for myself, also I realize that when I interact and build my relationships with others out of fear/emotions/desires, I only consider myself and my self interest and so I create/allow abuse, therefore I commit myself to write out and self-forgive all points where I interact with my ex-girlfriend or others out of fear/emotions/self-interest and direct myself in breath to create relationships based on common sense and what is best for all.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to react with anger and to feel controlled/limited whenever my partner reacts to the point of me talking/meeting with my ex-girlfriend and/or prohibits me to talk/meet with her or any other of my friends or people I know. I realize and understand that I react with anger and feeling of control because I believe that I have the right to talk to/meet with whomever I want while not considering the point that my partner reacts this way because she doesn't trust me that I will stand and not fall for my emotions/feelings, which is a consequence of me doing this in the past. I realize that me reacting to this and the fact that my partner does not trust me will not change anything and that I cannot make or convince anyone to trust me. Therefore I commit myself to walk my process of self-correction and stand through time in common sense and what is best for all by not allowing myself to be directed by my emotions/feelings and so stabilize myself to always be here in the breath and so my surroundings will also become more stable.

2011 - Love is the answer

And the question to that would be: What is the most hypocritical word of all time, used as a justification for the abuse of life? Love is the fucking answer, let me tell you.
It is profoundly sick and evil how we the people use it for our personal ego reasons. It is actually the most self-negating word I ever heard of! People say it and then live it out as a complete ego-driven abuse of life. Stay the fuck away form me with your "love is the answer" shit because I don't want to get fucked nor beaten, neither be treated as special, not even be brainwashed to the presumably heavenly energy bullshit experiences of love and I absolutely don't want to walk around hugging and kissing and saying nice words to everyone all the fucking day, for the obvious reasons of: it doesn't solve the fucking problem of the abuse of life that we the people together in the unison of love, as well as each one individually, accept and allow to exist every fucking day, while some preach love is all you need. Fuck your love, because when I say fuck, everyone knows what I'm talking about. And when you say love, what the fuck is that? Is that a fuck, or what is it? Let me tell you what we the people do as the act of love...

STOP. Look at your reaction, look at your feelings right now. Do you see your thoughts? Can you see your emotions and feeling moving inside of you, moving you, generating even more thoughts and energy? Are you reacting to these words I wrote? Self honesty, please. Are you capable of looking at yourself in self-honesty? Can you see your ego, your mind-consciousness system re-acting to these words without you even being aware of it? Not yet? Read on then and be completely, self-honestly aware of your thoughts/emotions/feelings/energy movement inside of you and write them down. Then write self forgiveness. Not for me, I don't give a fuck, I write it all the time. This is about you; can you be self honest? Can you stand for what is practically, objectively best for all life at all times? Can you stand as one and equal with all life? I don't need your answer. I perfect myself doing this every day until I'm perfect. Now that is real self-perfection. If you need a reason, a purpose in your life, make it self perfection as life as becoming one and equal as all life doing what is best for all in all ways, always. That's right, not love, fuck the delusion of love. Use your so called almighty freedom of choice and choose self perfections as how I described it. There is no doubt that you can but will you do it? Because this is about you and no-one will ever be able to help you or change you or make you believe in anything. It is your responsibility to clean the bullshit you've accepted and allowed as you through thoughts/emotions/feeling/habits or whatever other form of expression you may have. Make sure that you are aligned in all ways with what is best for all because otherwise you will get ignored by everyone and fucked up by your own ego to the ultimate degree. And no one will give a fuck.

Now where was I -
Let me now use my eyes to look at objective things in this real-ity and see what is actually manifested here in the physical and has an undeniable connection with the word love:

Some people say they love their children. They occasionally beat them, because they want to establish their authority over their children to teach them how to behave "good", while mostly they in fact have no idea what "good" actually means and it is in most cases not aligned with what is best for all, if not profoundly sick and exclusive. In the same time such people also blindly continue to destroy the Earth with pollution (in the name of love for profit) because they obviously want for their children to have a lovely future cleaning up after them but "how to" is not included in the upraising brainwash material they enforce into the children with such great love. Next...

Almost all the people have (had) a love relationship where they make-belief that the person who they love and fuck is a special person who is better and more important than any other life form in existence therefore it is OK if they treat it as such while in the same time neglecting others. Trying to build a special haven for themselves and turning a blind eye for all the abuse that this so called love is causing to others. I've been doing this as well and I'm ready to stop. But this is not about me, it's about you, remember? There must always be the standing of me/my-self and you/your-self in oneness and equality with everything in existence first, before there is us. "We" can not exist if there is an egoistic abuser present. That's why you are responsible for everything you do and will face consequences accordingly. Love as ego is exclusive and always results in abuse. But that is surely not what one meant or considered when stating that love is the answer? There's no way to know what one actually/practically meant because if one would know exactly what one meant, one would use a specific unambiguous word to explain oneself. So what does this show? The author either has no idea what he is talking about, is delusional and non-practical or wants to deliberately confuse people and make an ego boost for himself. Neither of these things are something one could be proud of.

It shouldn't surprise you that we the people in this world are completely lost right now. So much so that we try to identify ourselves through all kinds of bullshit, like a sports team for example that we love to support by yelling and getting angry at the other team having all kinds of nasty thoughts about them, because we love our team, we love to feel special when our beloved team wins. And we don't give a fuck if at the same time people are deprived of their already miserable homes, like they were in South Africa for example, so that soccer stadiums can be build for us where we can show our great love to the players. Hey fuck the pricks, we are showing our love here. You gotta love soccer, you gotta love sports, it's good for business.
And then there is this nationality. We the people say to ourselves: we have to love our culture, our language, our heritage, our nationality, because this is who we are, this is who our ancestors were, we have to show them our love. And we the people go and in the name of love of our beloved country kill and rape and murder and steal and defend and fuck up children and we spread our love, our love of freedom and democracy, the-mockery, and we are proud to give our lives in the name of love for our special beloved country, for our special beloved freedom and regime. In the name of love we kill each other. Isn't that the most focking original way to show love, ay?

There are also some among us that believe(!) in love, the love of the God Lord or The Great White Light or whatever it is. It's the same shit in a new package. And this thing is the ultimate loving machine. It loves everyone no matter what. It loves you if you rape, it loves you if you steal, kill, murder, torture, brainwash, it doesn't really matter, you just have to believe in it. But you can't understand the love this thing gives to you, it's so profound you're too stupid to understand how it practically works but you still must accept it and enslave/submit to it or how they call it, accept Jesus and let him into your heart (?). And you must live it, the love of God and Jesus Christ, that's all you need. It is encouraging to see that there are lots of people among us who seriously question the lack of practicality of such love and so skip it entirely, only to be picked up by those who blindly practice faith and religion. I'm not sure if they will ever be able to come up with any practical solutions for this world or even participate in such solutions, but I say let's give them a chance. I once believed in some kind of angels and deities too you know, thinking they can help me, until I realized that I just imagined them in my head and are thus not real. The problem gets serious when you just believe some other people who say there is a deity or God that will save you and that there is proof about it but you can't see it and you were raised and brainwashed like that all your childhood/ life. That's some serious parental/cultural love sharing taking place right there, yup, making you a religious fanatic. Lovely?

So already here you can see I observed all sorts of love in this world from us the people and there is a problem. Which one is the real love? Religion, sports, identity, energy, emotions, specialness? You say love is the answer. You either don't have a fucking clue what you're talking about or you try to deliberately confuse people? I suggest we deal with this dilemma right here and now. I dare to say that majority of people would agree that when you love somebody you have sex with that person, right? Mostly. So to love a person also means to fuck a person. Now that is something practical everybody understand with no doubt. Love = fuck. Now lets stick with this definition for the sake of clarity of what we're talking about because as we can see: love right now means all kinds of abusive bullshit and is probably the word with most different meanings in existence. Now lets look into the "all answer giving" statement again:
Love is the answer = Fuck is the answer.

Now that's an easy one. Are you full of sexual energy and you need to release it? Fuck can be an answer, yes. Do you want to make children? Fuck works here as well, how convenient. Now we want to abolish world famine. Fuck is the answer. (?) How does that practically work again? We all fuck each other and there is no more famine? We the people are already doing it since prehistoric times and still there are more an more hungry people every fucking day of fucking. Holy fucking love this ain't working! Here we have it: Love is the answer = failure to deal with world problems and the generally accepted abuse of life because guess what? Love in itself is the polarity of hate. There is no love without hate. So next time when you try to tell someone that love is the answer, realize that what you're saying is: go fuck yourself, fucking is the answer. Because that is what love PRACTICALLY means: to fuck yourself and everyone around you at the same time by the make-belief love mind-fucks in your head, while it all looks and sounds pretty and exciting. Now before your reactions take complete control over you, here's the real, PRACTICAL solution for the world problems and holy fuck it's not love: It's self-forgiveness and self-corrective application. Yes, it is all about you! Not you giving love, but you for-giving your-self, the gift of letting go of all the accepted and allowed thoughts/feelings/emotions/habits/behaviours that you lived every day and through which you caused abuse and harm to life not even realizing it. It is so fucking simple it's ridiculous. Will you do it? Will you try it? Will you ever give yourself a chance? I'm doing it, it's fun, simple, practical, best for all and no fucking belief/knowledge/voodoo required! Just self-honesty! Can you see now why love is fake and not real? Stop reactions, stop the bullshit, get practical, get real, be life, one and equal, what is best for all.

We the real people, walking the self-honest process of becoming real, meaning; being here aware of the physical at all times, not going fading into the mind of thoughts/emotions/feelings and illusionary relationships, who recognize ourselves as life, one and equal, are practical. We find practical solutions for all the problems no matter how lovingly fucked up they are and we support each other as one as equals as life, because we are life. There are unfortunately those among us who decide(d) that they will give themselves no chance whatsoever to correct themselves thorough self forgiveness and self corrective application. Maybe they just love their ego shit too much? Are they full of ego love or what? Fortunately they will die as well. Have a nice death.

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This is firstly about you, remember? You are the one not being equal to all life, you are the one not doing what's best for all, self-honestly. We're all like that, but some of us are actually doing something about it. But forget others. You must firstly help yourself and clean yourself of all the accepted and allowed bullshit you live out every day. Then you will change and then WE will change. To truly become life, one and equal, doing what's best for all at all times, where everyone is taking care of and everyone can enjoy life in dignity. Support yourself with the material provided on the page bellow.

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